sensual experiences:

One of the experiences I had with a 2 and half year old little boy was when I took him for a walk and we arrived to a football  field that was surrounded by a jogging path made of red moist sand.. when he saw the red sand beneath his feet he first tested how it feels like to step on it.. then he started rubbing the ground with his hands until he could touch the deeper moist layers. He kept doing that for a while.. then he ended up grabbing sand in both of his hands and he walked towards me reaching his arms out to give me the sand that is in his fists.

A few days ago I read the following introduction in “the book of touch and aroma: sensual ways with massage and aromatherapy.”

When we lose touch with our senses, we become little more than machines rushing back and forth between work and home, our minds consumed with duties or problems, our bodies forgotten, sensory consciousness mislaid. This is not a desirable or happy state for anyone, yet it is the way many of us live every day of our lives.

We are born sensuous beings, little children live in their bodies. They are profoundly conscious of every new sensation and experience they encounter in the world. Let your mind drift back to your own childhood. What comes up? Scents and physical sensations most likely –these usually are the most vivid memories we retain from that time before we had to contend with life’s stresses.

Have you ever seen a cut on your hand, a cut you couldn’t explain? Cuts are painful, but you were too busy to take in the incident –or the pain. And just as you didn’t notice the pain of your cut, you are probably not aware of the feel of fabric on your skin, or the scent of the roses in the park you walk through every day, or the aroma of the pine needles as they crunch beneath your feet.

Whether or not you are conscious of smell on a day-to-day basis, it is a powerful and important sense and one we should develop and “listen to”. We subliminally take in smells all the time. These subliminal odors cause us to feel uncomfortable in particular surroundings and comfortable in others;  they cause us to like or dislike a person;  they are even largely responsible for choosing with whom we fall in love.

Everyone has a smell that is as distinctive as a fingerprint. Under normal circumstances we are not usually conscious of a person’s smell, unless we are in very close physical proximity to him or her –although sometimes we get an exaggerated sense of someone’s personal odor when they’ve been exercising. When we dislike a person on sight, we often think we are being unfair and make an effort to like that person. But it is possible that our instincts, through our olfactory systems, are alerting us to the fact that there is a good reason for our antipathy. The reason could be no more than a simple personality clash –it does not mean that that person is necessarily bad.

The association between smell and emotions is powerful. This is because odors stimulate the same neurons as those used by our emotional center: most of us have had the experience of walking down a street and becoming conscious of a smell that brings up a vivid memory from the past.

When children meet, they stare at each other for a little while, they begin to play using a lot of body contact. When adults meet –and even when they know each other well –they rarely touch; instead they focus on the organs for speaking, hearing and seeing. These are the senses our intellect come to rely on, so it is not surprising that as we grow and develop our intellects, we begin to forget to smell the roses in the park and cease to notice the wind on our faces.

Our senses of touch and smell, once re-awakened¸  can have a profound effect on the quality of our lives. They can be the srouce of great pleasure. If you can recapture a childlike ability to experience every sensation, you will find yourself living in the moment, leaving the past behind, and letting the future take care of itself.